Wednesday, November 08, 2006
Daddy's Enlightenment

Daddy counseled me today after allowing me to enjoy my recent daily routine of the Goong.
Points taken note of in his "lecture":

• relationship matters
• family bonds
• fate and destiny
• marriage

An excerpt of what i remembered from his lecture:
"I knew it all along that u were in a relationship. I knew u liked him. But i didn't want to mention it since u denied on having one. I noticed u were not your usual self the past few days...
Relationships are part and parcel of life. Both of u developed to become a step closer; more than a general friend. As u two hung out more often, tennis... group outings... then eventually dates, it's natural that u will develop a liking for him. But u cannot expect him to do the same. Yes, there must be some form of liking on both parties to get to know each other better, to divulge more personal information. But he may have found u incompatible with him along the way, and therefore he rejected u. No hard feelings on both parties. If u two can settle it in a friendly manner, both of u can still be friends...
This is just a minor obstacle which u met in your life. There are so many choices out there for u to choose when u grow older. U are not bad looking and u have high qualifications, going to pursue university studies after your poly, u are bound to have suitors. He is not the only guy available. There is a wide field of selection out there for u when u enter the society. This is just a drop of the ocean...
This is a trial and error period. A process in life. U are just testing the grounds to see if he matches u. If he is not right for u, break it now better than to get into a relationship later on and getting even more hurt. I've been through this stage in life. Those unwanted feelings- hurt feelings are not necessary. Don't put yourself too deeply into it coz once it fails, u will get hurt. Girls have always more to lose compared to guys. They throw in too much and eventually, when the guy plays them out, they are distraught. And i dun want that to happen...
In fact, the man who will be your future husband is already out there somewhere. Both of u may not have crossed paths yet but when the time is right, he will come along. Sometimes, things occur when u least expect it without putting in much effort; naturally. He may come to u or u may go to him. It is fate and it's predestined. U may need to go through many obstacles before meeting him. And every experience allows u to learn something. The time will come naturally.
Like me, i went one big round before i met mummy. Why can't i just meet her straight to save me from these troubles and unwanted feelings of hurt? Out of the 8 billion people in this world, why do i have to marry your mummy in the end? It's fate. God has already assigned both of u to be together. It's only a matter of time...
Anyway, now is not the time for u to get into a relationship. Both mummy and i are not against u having one. Neither are we for it. But if u want to have it, we will be supportive, but u got to bear in mind the consequences of getting into one and always be on your guard. When u step into a relationship, it will be even harder for u to let go. This minor obstacle didn't need u to feel so heartbroken over. Yes, u will be sad but get over it in a few days. Move on with life, and more importantly, concentrate on your studies. They are your primary focus now...
Remember that u always have a supportive family behind u who will always be there. Compared to other families, u have to consider yourself lucky to have a happy family. Family bonding is very important. So what if u get a boyfriend but have a broken family? Will u be happy? U won't. Family is still the most important people in life...
There is one thing u need to change that is your stubbornness. Guys will not want girls to be over dominating and over rule them. Even though the society is changing, the status of a man and a woman has never once changed. Yes, they did improve but there is still no equality. When u get married, the man is still the head of the family. U have to show him your due respect...
Now, dun think about it anymore. Get over it and focus on your studies. Dun let this sway u away from your studies..."


That was more or less of what daddy said. I can't really remember it word for word but that's the gist of it. His lecture lasted for an hr with a call break in between. lol. Talks with daddy are forever enlightening. He's the man.

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